We are at midway point in the calm mom strategies. Today's strategy is one that I need much practice with in my everyday life.
Now, I am good at communicating and delivering a specific message for the most part. In contrast, if one finds me tired, agitated, or the recipient is not seeming to be hearing (aka agreeing) with my stance; then we do have problems with my ability at being an effective communicator. Who is with me?
Becoming A Calm Communicator
Avoid being a passive or aggressive communicator:
· Passive communication: Passive communicators try hard to appease others, but their own needs are not met
· Aggressive communicators: Aggressive communicators look out for themselves, but they neglect the needs and feelings of others.
Be a Calm Communicator by using Assertive Communication:
· Assertive communicators have their own needs met and look out for the needs and feelings of others.
To Be A Calm Communicator:
· Consider the other person’s perspective.
· Voice your own perspective.
· Tell the other person what you need.
· Offer a solution that might be equally acceptable to both parties.
Ledley, D.R. (2009). Becoming a calm mom: How to manage stress and enjoy the first year of motherhood. Washington, DC. American Psychological Association.
Question of the Day: Are you a passive, aggressive, or assertive communicator?